When a girl comes into this world she is loved and brought up by her parents. In our age (90s) , girls were taught to be quiet and composed. When they dreamt of anything they would be told you can do that when you get bigger and as they get older would be told that go do that at your own house or with your husband. And such is how the list of things to do later grows.
Then comes the day when the girl starts off on her own feet. Earning a salary maybe ? And thinks yes this is when maybe I can do things my own way and she probably doesn't even know what way that is. You know why ? Cos she has not had the chance to even try anything yet.
As she starts to dream comes marriage. Before she can even think what that brings for her. The best of things is promised and all those love stories she saw in movies floats before her eyes clouding her thought process and before she knows it she thinks she is going into her own house now and the next step of life.
Here comes the twist. What she thought is her new home is actually the home of the guy and it will always be. Learn the new tradition and how things are done in this house and follow the same. So now what happens to those dreams and the list of items she wanted to do when she became bigger ?
How she wanted to decorate her home, what color wall or curtain she likes , her next venture into modern cooking, her baking and fun experimenting ideas. Her idea of a family and life ahead for herself? Is there anyone who would hear it ? Poor her she thinks there is still hope for that.
Maybe her husband will pay heed to the things she tried to say she liked and the people in her new home will consider her a part. Just maybe her dreams may still come true so she keeps trying till the system breaks her.
So can a woman dream ? Or does she just keep adjusting to the new world around her. When will she find her voice ? Will people change their opinions and how they bring up their girls ? This generation needs to take that step. If we don't listen to elders we are in the wrong but who will explain to them that we are only trying to help our girls get to their dreams atleast in the future.
A perspective.
Then comes the day when the girl starts off on her own feet. Earning a salary maybe ? And thinks yes this is when maybe I can do things my own way and she probably doesn't even know what way that is. You know why ? Cos she has not had the chance to even try anything yet.
As she starts to dream comes marriage. Before she can even think what that brings for her. The best of things is promised and all those love stories she saw in movies floats before her eyes clouding her thought process and before she knows it she thinks she is going into her own house now and the next step of life.
Here comes the twist. What she thought is her new home is actually the home of the guy and it will always be. Learn the new tradition and how things are done in this house and follow the same. So now what happens to those dreams and the list of items she wanted to do when she became bigger ?
How she wanted to decorate her home, what color wall or curtain she likes , her next venture into modern cooking, her baking and fun experimenting ideas. Her idea of a family and life ahead for herself? Is there anyone who would hear it ? Poor her she thinks there is still hope for that.
Maybe her husband will pay heed to the things she tried to say she liked and the people in her new home will consider her a part. Just maybe her dreams may still come true so she keeps trying till the system breaks her.
So can a woman dream ? Or does she just keep adjusting to the new world around her. When will she find her voice ? Will people change their opinions and how they bring up their girls ? This generation needs to take that step. If we don't listen to elders we are in the wrong but who will explain to them that we are only trying to help our girls get to their dreams atleast in the future.
A perspective.
