Can a woman dream?

When a girl comes into this world she is loved and brought up by her parents. In our age (90s) , girls were taught to be quiet and composed. When they dreamt of anything they would be told you can do that when you get bigger and as they get older would be told that go do that at your own house or with your husband. And such is how the list of things to do later grows.

Then comes the day when the girl starts off on her own feet. Earning a salary maybe ? And thinks yes this is when maybe I can do things my own way and she probably doesn't even know what way that is. You know why ? Cos she has not had the chance to even try anything yet.

As she starts to dream comes marriage. Before she can even think what that brings for her. The best of things is promised and all those love stories she saw in movies floats before her eyes clouding her thought process and before she knows it she thinks she is going into her own house now and the next step of life.

Here comes the twist. What she thought is her new home is actually the home of the guy and it will always be. Learn the new tradition and how things are done in this house and follow the same. So now what happens to those dreams and the list of items she wanted to do when she became bigger ?

How she wanted to decorate her home, what color wall or curtain she likes , her next venture into modern cooking, her baking and fun experimenting ideas. Her idea of a family and life ahead for herself? Is there anyone who would hear it ? Poor her she thinks there is still hope for that.

Maybe her husband will pay heed to the things she tried to say she liked and the people in her new home will consider her a part. Just maybe her dreams may still come true so she keeps trying till the system breaks her.

So can a woman dream ? Or does she just keep adjusting to the new world around her. When will she find her voice ? Will people change their opinions and how they bring up their girls ? This generation needs to take that step. If we don't listen to elders we are in the wrong but who will explain to them that we are only trying to help our girls get to their dreams atleast in the future.

A perspective.

Making effective decisions

From the title one might think this post might be something like those self help books everywhere. it is not!
It is mostly about how making effective decisions are really tough even after all the advise people in your life give you. Frankly, i feel even with experience you can never get a decision right.. Why i feel so? Because your mind is biased - between what u think is right and what will make u look right to the society. Even people who call themselves frank and upright cant deny this fact.

 What does one call an effective decision? Something that one thinks is right or something that is better than the one which is right for oneself but right for the society. Very confusing na? yeah it totally is. That apart there is also another controversial question to be answered before we get to the term effective how can we classify something as right? perspectives differ and so does right and wrong. All these things combined together making a decision itself seems to be a strenuous task and making it effective seems to be unattainable.

What are the things you would consider before deciding something?
1. Will that benefit you
2. Any hindrances that could cause the decision to backfire on you
3. Where will that decision lead you to

These are the ones that come into my mind. Firstly, anyone would look into a selfish benefit before they decide upon anything. So coming out of a comfort zone and doing something which might be an effective option wont be on the top 10. People should be willing enough, more daring, open to taking risks. All these options seem so far fetched but when u actually think upon it , might lead to something if not awesome may be different out of the monotony, and possibly good. Well i m saying we should take risks and make effective decisions but we must also make sure we arent jumping into the well without a rope.

So give it a thought.
Make an effective decision. Try to maybe. Give it a shot.
If it s not so effective you can always revert back and take the easy way out.
We do have the rope(jumping in the well part:P)

P.S:All this started because i came across a training session for one hour for effective decison making! LOL.

WeChat with Anyone, Anywhere!

Being an IndiBlogger,  i am gonna talk about WeChat app in this post and who would be the 5 people i would like to talk to on the group chat facility in the app..Incase a few of you dont know what i am talking about , you would definitely have not missed the viral ad about this new android app- WeChat which is a rage right now! I am saying with much confidence as it features in between the overs of our much watched fantasy t20 games (CRICKET: IPL to be more clear) :)

http://www.youtube.com/user/WeChatIndia?v=XjGoyjH-AuM

You can look at the ad in the above link in case you missed out on seeing it :D

This app is a new revolution to the lot of messaging apps, since it supports voice messaging. You can jus talk by pressing a button and it goes as voice instead of text just like that :) very easy to use and lots of fun!!

Similar to the contemporary messaging apps which are widely used like whatsapp and viber, it also has a very user friendly and colourful UI. But since people are very used to those apps shifting and accepting a new app which considering many reasons may also be so much more fun is a little tough but trust me it is a lot of fun! :)

The 5 people that i would want to chat with in a group chat using this app would be my best friends.. Just as is seen in the ad. Speaking of which the ad is also wonderfully taken.(take a look at it below , they arent exaggerating you can actually do that!)

Right so as i was saying i would like to chat with my best friends using this group chat i think it would be amazing experience.. I still cant do since 2 of them dont have a smart phone but they are gonna have it soon and then we all could keep chatting all day along. Just out of college and settling into our lives, all of us are too busy to catch up with our lives and WeChat would bring us closer wherever we are at any point of the day, even if we are miles apart!

So download the app, suggest it to all your friends and have fun chatting :)

GRADUATION!

Final prize for the 4 years of slogging. Yes, Convocation ceremony.

 As always even at this event my college is different from all the affiliated colleges. Every weekend since the start of April we have all been waiting for a mail regarding our convocation date but all we got to see was the convocation pictures of all the other affiliated colleges and like their pictures. With the pass of time there wud be rumours as to it being the next weekend and after and it never came. April ended and may started with more guesses and rumours. Finally there comes the awaited email and it says your convocation is on a weekday - attend without fail. I mean who even does that? To top that it is also in the middle of the 5 day work week = Wednesday!

Triggering a feed(FB) full of curses from the students of all the departments , but it is still the one thing after college everyone was looking fwd to. since it means meeting people whom you thought you wont ever meet after the last day of college and meeting everyone under the college roof for one last time.(yes there may be alumni meets but face it noone attends them, people think they are too cool for it and that the management may end up asking us for money when we do meet). Anna university has this weird way of having the graduation ceremony only after a year. So it has been a year or more since classmates, friends met under the college roof. Few people and close ones we might have met often/ rarely after that day but many of whom we would/ woudnt have thought about as to what happened to them.

Lot of surprises, may be a few shocks all these emotions one can find at this event! Just a graduation who cares one might think but it certainly means a lot to me. We can meet anywhere else we can plan to meet wherever we want , whenever we want, but that college under the sun in that auditorium treated equally as passouts- this is going to be the last time that feeling will ever come.

4 years of college , every corridor will have its own story for each and every student! walking together in and out of that place where we spent most of our time having fun, pulling each other's legs, getting punished, having a hard time, supporting, defending, fighting, offending , loving and what not. 4 years of college unforgettable for many reasons for each of us, will always stay etched in our memories.
Revisting those memories might be painful for some, happy for some but its all a part of the game of life!

Again, college strikes by keeping our convocation as the last among the affiliated colleges and in the middle of the week, thereby many people wont turn up, people from out station might not be able to take that many days of leave. Despite all these reasons i want the most to turn up for this event. Gonna be once in ur lifetime the first convocation - Engineering and ll. So without just giving reasons even if it s really stupid, do turn up.
You might not realise who might be waiting to see you or what might be in store this day.

May be i saw too many movies and have high expectations :P But stil however bad it might turn out when your close ones are around it doesnt matter does it? Your parents are proud of you that day even if they dont express it explicitly. Blessings and best wishes are in order.
Not for the chief guest, not for the ranks, but one last time for friendship's sake, just for being together to savour that moment and to share.

I wish everyone can make it. Awaiting the day- May 29 2013- graduation batch 2012.

For now we have all registered for the graduation after the numerous everyday reminders!

More on what actually happened after the day is done :)

Overcoming Death

If there are a few things which leave one stranded in the middle of nowhere it is death. When you are clueless how is it possible to move to something? Friends and relatives gather to support. There is lot of wailing and crying, lot of emotions and the lack of the same. Noone really knows wat to do. Wat can anyone possible do to over come that loss?

Yes , it is inevitable, everyone knows it s coming somewhere along the way. But when it happens one doesnt really know how to handle it. Even when anticipated, we are never prepared for that eventuality. One can be prepared to live but how is it can one be prepared for death? Everything is at a standstill. It takes a while to understand that the person isnt anymore in our lives and deal with it..The thought that all those things which we had planned for the future cant happen anymore is taunting us when the past memories haunt us and keep reminding us of all those things we did together..

When the future is unclear and fog is clouding all our thoughts. When we cant think straight in between the various thoughts from people around leaves us in a whirlwind. How is it that we take the first step towards the path ahead, wat can we say to console ourselves and the concerned?

What to plan? Where to start? Where to go? All these questions stay at the back of our head as we need to start our bold endeavour forward. Towards what, really i cant say but life may be?

With all our hopes and prayers shattered we need to bring back something to look forward in life for the ride ahead for our own sake and all our close ones. Yes one soul hath departed but we still need to live for their sakes and our own.
L.I.V.E

Look beyond. Bring back the love for self, others and everything else which we might begin to detest.

Yes need to move forward. Can only be done when we decide to move from where we are at present.

B.E.L.I.E.V.E

That things will fall to place. Good things will be there ahead too.

H.O.P.E

For everything good and go on. Dont turn.

L.O.V.E

That is the essence of everything in life and is very much needed to start living again. A fresh new start.

Take that step forward!

One person's death shouldnt stop one 's life from continuing and going forward, even though it affects the everyday. Still you stil need to live til your turn comes. Yes sometime ahead it wil be your time to face death. Till then L.I.V.E!

c'mon back yes everything wont be the same ever again , differnt is good too? i cant say it when u want it to be how it was before. We all do yearn for it to be the way it was, but when it cant lets say start afresh instead of saying it is differnt from how it was.

N.E.W- renew your life's goals and interests.
Go Further! Move ahead!

Something about FOOD!!

I ve been meaning to write something about food for a long time now.. and so here it is! Andd yes i am a foodie :)

I saw a movie named Julie & Julia sometime back and i could say that it inspired me to think about writing this post.. It is a movie about how one woman Julie from the 80's who was a homemaker started wondering where her life was heading which lead her to take up cooking as a career and how she persevered to learn the art of french cooking since she herself loved to eat french food and also made her learnings useful for all others like her by making a book of recipes in English so it could be practised in American household as well.. And about another lady Julia who was a homemaker of the modern times who gets inspired by Julie and her work and starts to improve her livelihood by cooking and making it her break.

The movie brings out the thoughts of a woman wondering wat next when she reaches monotony in her life, and i am sure any girl (18+)who watches that movie wil be able to relate to the same state of mind and so did i.. Yes i wanted to talk about food since it is like a companion to many, a break to some, an escape to a few, stress buster, hunger reliever and many other forms it takes based on a person's mood. Don't you agree?

There are many times i am jus bored and eat food then.. Sometimes i show anger by not eating, i eat more when i am stressed , i take chocolate as my aid when i m sad or not particularly in a good mood and (may be the sugar :P) it immediately makes me feel good. It actually gives me the time to think and make a sane decision after the crazy moment hath passed :D I m sure many of you will also agree to this.

Not just for all these reasons, i am basically a foodie as well. Like to eat and try differnt types of food whenever i get a chance. South Indian, North Indian, Chinese, Continental so on and so forth :)

So all you ppl out there always remember-"the best people are those who love to eat" so never shy away from food.. Isnt the main reason that we work and earn money is to eat and live the way we want to?

And one final thing we all know that many people dont get one single meal a day so dont ever waste food :)

Have a good week ahead!

Everything is interconnected- random mind voices

I was looking at this random picture on Facebook and i dint really wonder anything as i scrolled past it , but this morning all the small things that went wrong i was getting a memory flash of that picture.. thats how mind works may be? connecting things together for no real reason. And i began writing this post.

I was awakened this morning by my sister asking me to help her with some music mixing for a college day function as i try to shake away the sleep and try to get in my head what exactly she s telling it gets late and i say this cant really be done now so go ahead with what was already planned and dont change anything and she wasn't really happy about that and with that feeling she left to college. The same thing started me out on a grumpy morning. I was getting ready to go get a learner's license when the current went out when i learned it was maintenance day in my area (9-5 power shut down). The heat was getting on everyone's nerves and me and my mom finally set out to the driving license office. There was a long line for getting the license and it was very hot since there was no current in that locality as well, after a 45 minute wait when i go in the officer tells me that i dont seem to be having the original license for proof instead i had brought the copy and that she cant consider it and that was it i was so frustrated that i had to start early and come here again tomorrow.

I left from there and walked to the nearby MRTS station to take the train to work in the scorching sun.
Finally took the train and reached work and started out with checking mails when i realised that my nost stud had fallen out. I dint know where, when and how. And that made me realise and brand it so that this day has started out to the worse. I was fighting with a friend as well and i reallllllllly couldnt get my mood up. Hence thought if i could bring out my thought out onto paper or rather in my case this blog online would calm me to face the rest of the long day.

And the picture that i was talking about at the start of this post is-

At the end after writing all this i dont even know how everything reminded me of this picture which i happened to scroll by earlier this week. Thats how mind works :P

Dont ask me how, cos i dont understand its evil ways :)

And yes you can see the smileys now, since i am considerably calmed down and ready to face the rest of the day however it turns out.

Good day folks!

P.S : Think about how everything is connected in all the weird ways. i never really get it.