Making effective decisions

From the title one might think this post might be something like those self help books everywhere. it is not!
It is mostly about how making effective decisions are really tough even after all the advise people in your life give you. Frankly, i feel even with experience you can never get a decision right.. Why i feel so? Because your mind is biased - between what u think is right and what will make u look right to the society. Even people who call themselves frank and upright cant deny this fact.

 What does one call an effective decision? Something that one thinks is right or something that is better than the one which is right for oneself but right for the society. Very confusing na? yeah it totally is. That apart there is also another controversial question to be answered before we get to the term effective how can we classify something as right? perspectives differ and so does right and wrong. All these things combined together making a decision itself seems to be a strenuous task and making it effective seems to be unattainable.

What are the things you would consider before deciding something?
1. Will that benefit you
2. Any hindrances that could cause the decision to backfire on you
3. Where will that decision lead you to

These are the ones that come into my mind. Firstly, anyone would look into a selfish benefit before they decide upon anything. So coming out of a comfort zone and doing something which might be an effective option wont be on the top 10. People should be willing enough, more daring, open to taking risks. All these options seem so far fetched but when u actually think upon it , might lead to something if not awesome may be different out of the monotony, and possibly good. Well i m saying we should take risks and make effective decisions but we must also make sure we arent jumping into the well without a rope.

So give it a thought.
Make an effective decision. Try to maybe. Give it a shot.
If it s not so effective you can always revert back and take the easy way out.
We do have the rope(jumping in the well part:P)

P.S:All this started because i came across a training session for one hour for effective decison making! LOL.

WeChat with Anyone, Anywhere!

Being an IndiBlogger,  i am gonna talk about WeChat app in this post and who would be the 5 people i would like to talk to on the group chat facility in the app..Incase a few of you dont know what i am talking about , you would definitely have not missed the viral ad about this new android app- WeChat which is a rage right now! I am saying with much confidence as it features in between the overs of our much watched fantasy t20 games (CRICKET: IPL to be more clear) :)

http://www.youtube.com/user/WeChatIndia?v=XjGoyjH-AuM

You can look at the ad in the above link in case you missed out on seeing it :D

This app is a new revolution to the lot of messaging apps, since it supports voice messaging. You can jus talk by pressing a button and it goes as voice instead of text just like that :) very easy to use and lots of fun!!

Similar to the contemporary messaging apps which are widely used like whatsapp and viber, it also has a very user friendly and colourful UI. But since people are very used to those apps shifting and accepting a new app which considering many reasons may also be so much more fun is a little tough but trust me it is a lot of fun! :)

The 5 people that i would want to chat with in a group chat using this app would be my best friends.. Just as is seen in the ad. Speaking of which the ad is also wonderfully taken.(take a look at it below , they arent exaggerating you can actually do that!)

Right so as i was saying i would like to chat with my best friends using this group chat i think it would be amazing experience.. I still cant do since 2 of them dont have a smart phone but they are gonna have it soon and then we all could keep chatting all day along. Just out of college and settling into our lives, all of us are too busy to catch up with our lives and WeChat would bring us closer wherever we are at any point of the day, even if we are miles apart!

So download the app, suggest it to all your friends and have fun chatting :)

GRADUATION!

Final prize for the 4 years of slogging. Yes, Convocation ceremony.

 As always even at this event my college is different from all the affiliated colleges. Every weekend since the start of April we have all been waiting for a mail regarding our convocation date but all we got to see was the convocation pictures of all the other affiliated colleges and like their pictures. With the pass of time there wud be rumours as to it being the next weekend and after and it never came. April ended and may started with more guesses and rumours. Finally there comes the awaited email and it says your convocation is on a weekday - attend without fail. I mean who even does that? To top that it is also in the middle of the 5 day work week = Wednesday!

Triggering a feed(FB) full of curses from the students of all the departments , but it is still the one thing after college everyone was looking fwd to. since it means meeting people whom you thought you wont ever meet after the last day of college and meeting everyone under the college roof for one last time.(yes there may be alumni meets but face it noone attends them, people think they are too cool for it and that the management may end up asking us for money when we do meet). Anna university has this weird way of having the graduation ceremony only after a year. So it has been a year or more since classmates, friends met under the college roof. Few people and close ones we might have met often/ rarely after that day but many of whom we would/ woudnt have thought about as to what happened to them.

Lot of surprises, may be a few shocks all these emotions one can find at this event! Just a graduation who cares one might think but it certainly means a lot to me. We can meet anywhere else we can plan to meet wherever we want , whenever we want, but that college under the sun in that auditorium treated equally as passouts- this is going to be the last time that feeling will ever come.

4 years of college , every corridor will have its own story for each and every student! walking together in and out of that place where we spent most of our time having fun, pulling each other's legs, getting punished, having a hard time, supporting, defending, fighting, offending , loving and what not. 4 years of college unforgettable for many reasons for each of us, will always stay etched in our memories.
Revisting those memories might be painful for some, happy for some but its all a part of the game of life!

Again, college strikes by keeping our convocation as the last among the affiliated colleges and in the middle of the week, thereby many people wont turn up, people from out station might not be able to take that many days of leave. Despite all these reasons i want the most to turn up for this event. Gonna be once in ur lifetime the first convocation - Engineering and ll. So without just giving reasons even if it s really stupid, do turn up.
You might not realise who might be waiting to see you or what might be in store this day.

May be i saw too many movies and have high expectations :P But stil however bad it might turn out when your close ones are around it doesnt matter does it? Your parents are proud of you that day even if they dont express it explicitly. Blessings and best wishes are in order.
Not for the chief guest, not for the ranks, but one last time for friendship's sake, just for being together to savour that moment and to share.

I wish everyone can make it. Awaiting the day- May 29 2013- graduation batch 2012.

For now we have all registered for the graduation after the numerous everyday reminders!

More on what actually happened after the day is done :)

Overcoming Death

If there are a few things which leave one stranded in the middle of nowhere it is death. When you are clueless how is it possible to move to something? Friends and relatives gather to support. There is lot of wailing and crying, lot of emotions and the lack of the same. Noone really knows wat to do. Wat can anyone possible do to over come that loss?

Yes , it is inevitable, everyone knows it s coming somewhere along the way. But when it happens one doesnt really know how to handle it. Even when anticipated, we are never prepared for that eventuality. One can be prepared to live but how is it can one be prepared for death? Everything is at a standstill. It takes a while to understand that the person isnt anymore in our lives and deal with it..The thought that all those things which we had planned for the future cant happen anymore is taunting us when the past memories haunt us and keep reminding us of all those things we did together..

When the future is unclear and fog is clouding all our thoughts. When we cant think straight in between the various thoughts from people around leaves us in a whirlwind. How is it that we take the first step towards the path ahead, wat can we say to console ourselves and the concerned?

What to plan? Where to start? Where to go? All these questions stay at the back of our head as we need to start our bold endeavour forward. Towards what, really i cant say but life may be?

With all our hopes and prayers shattered we need to bring back something to look forward in life for the ride ahead for our own sake and all our close ones. Yes one soul hath departed but we still need to live for their sakes and our own.
L.I.V.E

Look beyond. Bring back the love for self, others and everything else which we might begin to detest.

Yes need to move forward. Can only be done when we decide to move from where we are at present.

B.E.L.I.E.V.E

That things will fall to place. Good things will be there ahead too.

H.O.P.E

For everything good and go on. Dont turn.

L.O.V.E

That is the essence of everything in life and is very much needed to start living again. A fresh new start.

Take that step forward!

One person's death shouldnt stop one 's life from continuing and going forward, even though it affects the everyday. Still you stil need to live til your turn comes. Yes sometime ahead it wil be your time to face death. Till then L.I.V.E!

c'mon back yes everything wont be the same ever again , differnt is good too? i cant say it when u want it to be how it was before. We all do yearn for it to be the way it was, but when it cant lets say start afresh instead of saying it is differnt from how it was.

N.E.W- renew your life's goals and interests.
Go Further! Move ahead!

Something about FOOD!!

I ve been meaning to write something about food for a long time now.. and so here it is! Andd yes i am a foodie :)

I saw a movie named Julie & Julia sometime back and i could say that it inspired me to think about writing this post.. It is a movie about how one woman Julie from the 80's who was a homemaker started wondering where her life was heading which lead her to take up cooking as a career and how she persevered to learn the art of french cooking since she herself loved to eat french food and also made her learnings useful for all others like her by making a book of recipes in English so it could be practised in American household as well.. And about another lady Julia who was a homemaker of the modern times who gets inspired by Julie and her work and starts to improve her livelihood by cooking and making it her break.

The movie brings out the thoughts of a woman wondering wat next when she reaches monotony in her life, and i am sure any girl (18+)who watches that movie wil be able to relate to the same state of mind and so did i.. Yes i wanted to talk about food since it is like a companion to many, a break to some, an escape to a few, stress buster, hunger reliever and many other forms it takes based on a person's mood. Don't you agree?

There are many times i am jus bored and eat food then.. Sometimes i show anger by not eating, i eat more when i am stressed , i take chocolate as my aid when i m sad or not particularly in a good mood and (may be the sugar :P) it immediately makes me feel good. It actually gives me the time to think and make a sane decision after the crazy moment hath passed :D I m sure many of you will also agree to this.

Not just for all these reasons, i am basically a foodie as well. Like to eat and try differnt types of food whenever i get a chance. South Indian, North Indian, Chinese, Continental so on and so forth :)

So all you ppl out there always remember-"the best people are those who love to eat" so never shy away from food.. Isnt the main reason that we work and earn money is to eat and live the way we want to?

And one final thing we all know that many people dont get one single meal a day so dont ever waste food :)

Have a good week ahead!

Everything is interconnected- random mind voices

I was looking at this random picture on Facebook and i dint really wonder anything as i scrolled past it , but this morning all the small things that went wrong i was getting a memory flash of that picture.. thats how mind works may be? connecting things together for no real reason. And i began writing this post.

I was awakened this morning by my sister asking me to help her with some music mixing for a college day function as i try to shake away the sleep and try to get in my head what exactly she s telling it gets late and i say this cant really be done now so go ahead with what was already planned and dont change anything and she wasn't really happy about that and with that feeling she left to college. The same thing started me out on a grumpy morning. I was getting ready to go get a learner's license when the current went out when i learned it was maintenance day in my area (9-5 power shut down). The heat was getting on everyone's nerves and me and my mom finally set out to the driving license office. There was a long line for getting the license and it was very hot since there was no current in that locality as well, after a 45 minute wait when i go in the officer tells me that i dont seem to be having the original license for proof instead i had brought the copy and that she cant consider it and that was it i was so frustrated that i had to start early and come here again tomorrow.

I left from there and walked to the nearby MRTS station to take the train to work in the scorching sun.
Finally took the train and reached work and started out with checking mails when i realised that my nost stud had fallen out. I dint know where, when and how. And that made me realise and brand it so that this day has started out to the worse. I was fighting with a friend as well and i reallllllllly couldnt get my mood up. Hence thought if i could bring out my thought out onto paper or rather in my case this blog online would calm me to face the rest of the long day.

And the picture that i was talking about at the start of this post is-

At the end after writing all this i dont even know how everything reminded me of this picture which i happened to scroll by earlier this week. Thats how mind works :P

Dont ask me how, cos i dont understand its evil ways :)

And yes you can see the smileys now, since i am considerably calmed down and ready to face the rest of the day however it turns out.

Good day folks!

P.S : Think about how everything is connected in all the weird ways. i never really get it.

Is there life after work?

I recently came across the article and that got me thinking about a lot more things-
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/10/opinion/sunday/is-there-life-after-work.html?smid=fb-share&_r=0

It is about how working woman who had a thirst for a living turned into workaholics. How the stress from work percolates and stays on the mind of the person even after getting back to the home environment and affects their thought and actions. Ppl always say that work when at work and leave all those thoughts behing the minute you step out of office, but the concept of work from home which is supposed to be making life easier is indeed making it tougher. What is the priority? Many of us don't exactly are able to sort out.

If there is an issue at work it doesnt have to wait til the next day of work, why- cos you can log in right from home and deal with it even when in the middle of a normal talk with a friend or spouse. Talking isnt more important than work? I say NO. Talking and everything else is also important. Work is only a part of life. Yes, agreed to the fact that it actually gives us the money for our bread and butter that is why in the first place we go to work and few % of people go to work cos they love what they do like research in some field and they actually might think they live for it, even then it only is a part of life.. Normal activities which we all used to do like watch a sitcom at home or go for a movie on the day it releases and talk for hours with our friends shouldn't become obsolete just because we work. Yes, may be we dont get that many hours for all those things but we need to have time for all these things as well.

The week is tough and the 2 day weekend isn't enough- this is the standard line you can hear from anyone who works.

 All the millions of posts stating about monday blues are all not because of the fact it is the start of a long week, it is because ppl arent ready enough for it yet. We all want to work but we dont want to just work, we weant more out of our lives. Want to go trekking on saturday but cant since we are too tired and sleep off the day. On sunday before we even think of something to do it s the end of day and we start thinking of the next day and week ahead.

How to deal with this syndrome- get up from your bed to have fun the same way you are forced to get out of bed for work. Thats all you need.

Once you are out having fun, everything else will fall into place. So when to relax?I dont think we ll need a specific time for that since our mind is already relaxed by the fun :) jus few hours of sleep is more than enough for the body. I feel it is the mind which requires more hours of rest. When mentally strong anything else doesnt matter.

SO ALWAYS MAKE TIME FOR FUN! :) you deserve that much.

Friends vs Colleagues

Well, i dont know if its an overstatement if i mention that i always have been thinking to write but my stressful present lifestyle doesnt really allow me to bring out the right words :D

Leaving that apart- Corporate makes you a different person. how does that sound?
When we were kids,  i dont know exactly which phase is considered that anymore with the present generation kids knowing so much more ( i sound like my mom now *ouch*).. coming back to the point. When we were small we thought anyone we met were our friends and thats how i kept thinking til the point i reached college. Now i'm working and i am having to face a lot of new ppl and am supposed to treat them as my collegues.

What does that even mean? Do everything together with them and stil act s if they are a nobody in ur life.. just someone whom we work with and nothing more. No attachments.

colleagues  (plural of col·league)

Noun A person with whom one works, esp. in a profession or business.

Well certainly not easy for a person like me who is friendly with anyone i meet. I think atleast a few ppl will deal with the same problem. Cant always talk about just the weather and office politics. After sometime there might be something more to talk and share about like self and interests. How much to talk? What not to talk? These are a few things am still left wondering about. I only came to understand the meaning of the terms friends and friendly and its differences(never thought there was any difference earlier) after getting introduced to the term "Collegiality"[yes that word exists :P]..

so can there never be friends at work? or even ppl who were friends before turn to being collegues after they start working together?!

still a mystery..

More to come on the lessons corporate life teaches :D